The Goal Is Self Actualization

“If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
― Joseph Campbell

Who would have thought that I’d get insight from a trash tv show? I’m watching Big Brother After Dark and one of the contestants, Howard, was talking to a girl on the show about how she doesn’t know exactly what she wants from life yet. He said something that clicked.

“Don’t curse the process.”

Cursing the process is what so many of us do, and it’s why we haven’t gotten anywhere yet. We don’t want to take the necessary, time consuming steps  to succeed in a goal. It’s for a number of reasons: fear of success, looking at how much farther you have to go instead of how far you’ve come, wanting immediate gratification, sheer laziness, etc. The process should be celebrated. I so envy those people who have always known exactly which life path they wanted to follow and had no issues taking every step to get there. It takes focus, drive, determination, encouragement, a good support system, and a keen sense of the money figure you want to live on.

Even in saying that I am adding to the issue. Along with my list above of possible reasons to avoid the process… comparing yours to anyone else’s is setting up a huge roadblock for yourself. Your journey is nobody else’s. Nobody else’s to speculate on or judge. Life can be very circumstantial. Sometimes there needs to be a smorgasbord of events that need to happen along the way before you are ready to wake up. The best advice to get is to quit worrying about everyone else’s status and really focus on your own.

Here is Maslow’s Heirarchy of Human Needs. It’s a great example of the process.


Self Actualization, according to Wikipedia, is the motive to realize one’s full potential. Expressing one’s creativity, quest for spiritual enlightenment, pursuit of knowledge, and the desire to give to society. Like the pyramid above states… the most basic level of human needs must be met before the journey upwards to self actualization can move on.

Where are you on your journey?

I’m just getting started, again, and it’s a pretty great feeling.
24, no real responsibilities…once again the world is in the palm of my hand.
I registered for an expressive writing class online at George Brown yesterday. This is my first academic yearning in a long time. One of many I hope. Writing has always been an amazing outlet for me so why not incorporate it in my journey on a more serious level? It’s just one class… but the fact that I’m going after it says so much about the endless possibilities we can go after if we’re in the right circumstances.

What steps are you taking? Make them for yourself. As small or as big as you can handle.
You’ll be glad you did.


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