The minute you give somebody the benefit of the doubt a little too much, is the minute that you set yourself up for failure. William Shakespeare said it right when he said, and I quote “expectation is the root of all heartache”. We assume people will treat us the way we treat them because it’s natural. (Don’t worry eternal optimist, there are still good hearted people out there that have every intention of treating you properly and not letting you down.)
The point is, there are tons of folks who just don’t care, or at least act as if they don’t. The worst part is that for some of us, these people disappointing us are the closest ones to us. Our family and friends. If you’re putting in effort and aren’t getting the same in return I strongly suggest taking a step back, evaluating the situation and giving yourself a break.
Don’t expect so much from people. In fact it’s probably better to expect nothing at all. Even saying that, as true as it may be, bothers me. Shouldn’t we all be caring about each other and making an effort not to disappoint people? It seems easy to me. if somebody you care about is checking up on you, why not check right back up on them? Selfish people are the worst. You put yourself out there, feed their ego, and are left empty. Why? Well, it’s simple. They don’t care enough to ask about what’s going on with you. Some people need to be left alone, I feel, because no matter how much you expect from somebody – no matter what role they may play in your life – sometimes they just aren’t capable of giving you what you need.
Communication is a great way to avoid disappointment. Unfortunitely a lot of people don’t understand the concept of common courtesy or simply caring about a loved one. It’s a travesty if I’ve ever heard of one, but it’s something we’ve all got to deal with. There are always going to be people who don’t treat others as they wish to be treated, and that’s okay, that’s life. Truth is, half of them probably don’t even realize they’re acting this way. A lot of people get caught up in their lives, their kids, their jobs, their unhappy/happy existence to reach out or reciprocate in any real form of communication.
Forgive them anyway. All you have control over is how you treat people and the knowledge of what is worth being upset over. Sleep tight at the end of the day when you know your heart is in the right place. Pray (if you believe in doing so) that these people will have a moment of clarity and change their ways.
Otherwise, keep smiling and live on. Oh, and don’t expect too much from people.